Suzy, you will be entirely proper! Hanging to an ex or multiple your can severely harm your overall commitment and I know this from experience. My boyfriend keeps connected but has also been texting their ex and helping them with different factors behind my personal back. They gone as far as gifts are handed out at Christmas time to all his parents from his ex right in side of me personally (while I was informed not to bring nothing). It may stain a relationship whilst have mine. I also been advised that his finally union was ruined by your calling that exact same ex. Examining at some point to time maybe ok but how come that also necessary actually when it is creating chaos? If your existing spouse is ok using the call next fine in case maybe not, you need to give your mate the love and admiration they have earned. If you fail to promote that subsequently stay solitary.
Other than get in touch with definitely managed so that the welfare of kids (assuming discover most,) In my opinion it’s extremely disrespectful to an existing mate to keep emotionally enmeshed with an ex-lover (even though you reclassify the ex-lover as ‘just a buddy.’)